Hi friends. Ok. This is one for the books. I wasn't paying enough attention and I've been bamboozled.
So I'd been seeing this guy that works for the same company that I do. He doesn't work with me directly. In fact, we just happened to meet each other in passing. He's only in my building once a week for about an hour. Other than that. I don't really see him at work.
Anyway, things were decent. He had 2 kids. One was a little younger than I'd normally like. 4 months. There were a few things that he did that had him headed for the bubble. And the bubble is not a good place. It's like probation. When I say that a guy has been put on the bubble, he's in trouble, cause once the bubble has burst, it's a wrap. I should've followed my instinct.
Anyway, I digress. So we'd been seeing each other, having lunch together. He'd spent the night once.
Well, this past saturday I got a text. As a matter of fact, since we're all so close, I'll share the exact text and what was going through my head.
Him: Look can you tell this girl that we work together
Me: Tell what girl
Him: The mother of my children
(Screech, um first of all, to my knowledge, he has two kids and two baby mamas. From the above i've figured out that he's in a relationship with the youngest mom and i'm HOT. I'm wondering if she's reading his text and sooo)
Me: We work together and not that we're seeing each other? What r u talkin about. Y would I have to tell her that. What is going on.
Him: Just tell her we work together so she can stop askin questions bout u.
Me: Y is she asking about me and how would I even talk to her...is she gonna call me or something.
HIm: Probably
Me: She has my number? Fine tell her to call me.
(Clearly I wasn't getting anything out of him and I was NOT happy. I had 3 back to back calls from an unidentified number that didn't leave a voicemail about 2 hours before this. I wasn't sure if that was her.)
So then my phone rings
Me: What is the issue. Why am I even involved in any of this.
Him: Can you just tell her that we work together at xyz company in our (work city) and we work together.
Me: WHAT! ( i meant it rhetorically by the way)
Him: Can you just tell her that we work together at xyz company in our (work city) and we work together.
(I'm bewildered by his audacity and he had the nerve to sound frustrated, so I go quite for a second.)
Him: Hello
Me:Yeah
Him: Can you just tell her that we work together at xyz company (I interrupt)
Me: Stop repeating yourself and put her on the phone if you are going to do it.
Her: Hello
Me: Hi
Her: How do you know my husband
(Errrrrrrrrrrkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk)
Me: Your what?
Her: My husband
Me: He's married?
Her: Yes, he's married and we have 3 kids.
Me: He said he had two.
So just to sum it all up, she confirmed that he has 1 biological with her and the other two that live with them are hers from a previous relationship. He does have another biological son that doesn't live with them. She goes on to ask how we met, yadda, yadda, yadda. We were probably only on the phone for a couple of minutes or so. She was obviously sitting right next to him because every once in a while she'd say something to him like, "Oh, I'm just a baby mama huh?" and then ask another question. All I know is that the night that he stayed with me, he must've told a big one because when she put two and two together on the date, she said "you mutha--," I heard a thump and the phone went dead. I'm not sure if she hit him or hit him with the phone. Honestly, I don't care.
My thing is that how did he expect me to lie for him when he'd lied to me? In fact, he and I just happened to be watching cheaters a couple of weeks before and I specifically said, If a chick and cameras come up on me and I don't know that the dude is married, he's going under the bus. If I knew that he was married, then I'd have to take the L and take my lumps, but if he lies to me, he's short. I mean we had this EXACT conversation. What did he expect me to do?
So after all of this, what do I get later that night? A text that simply says, "I'm sorry." I'm sitting here thinking, are you serious? My reply said, "Dude save it..ur such a liar..and i cant believe u thought that i'd actually lie 4 u after u lied to me...u r trippin..u suck..apology NOT ACCEPTED"
After all of this, I relay an abridged version to one of my guy friends. Do you know what this dude said? It was grimy that I dimed him out. I must've wanted to hurt the girl because I was hurt. Guys are so stupid sometimes.
I told him that the only way that she could've known about me is if she read his text and if she read his text, she already knew. He was always mucho descriptive in his texts to me. There is nothing worse than you knowing something and someone keeps lying to you. And she said that she knew that he was trying to text me on what to say earlier. So while I didn't owe her anything, I certainly didn't owe him anything at this point. And let's not forget. I told him what was going to happen if he lied. He chose to lie, I followed through on what I promised. He's taking sympathy for this shystey little liar that he doesn't even know. I told him that it makes me look at him sideways now. I gave this dude plenty of opportunities to tell the truth. He didn't. So, oh well. I've never had a wife or girlfriend call me before. I can't believe it. Even if I walked in a restaurant and he was with his wife, I'd say hello and keep it moving. But for her to call me. And him to come at me with instructions. Uh uh. Violation. I'm going back to the old me. I'm always told, "well give him a chance, you're being to hard." But this didn't happen before. I always had a reason to do whatever I did. I went against my instinct and this is what happens. I know how Sheree felt last night on The Real Housewives of Atlanta. I let him in a little too early. This dude.
Blushing Ladies:
What would you have done? What's your opinion?
P.S. Did you see "The Doctor" on The Housewives with dress pants, dress shirt, blazer and flip flops. *side eye*
UPDATE: The wife called and sent me a text. Read here
